The Strange 'Boyfriend' post

This was really strange!!!

Situation: I was at an industry conference and was talking to a current customer and had to call Lurch regarding the status of a job for that customer. The evening before at the conference I made several contacts for new, potential customers. One man in particular seemed to be very interested in our services and I spent a great deal of time with him explaining what our company could do for him. So, in my call to Lurch about the first customer, I told him about the very promising lead from this other person.

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Timeframe: This happened after Lurch declared he loved me and wanted to be with me and before he divorced his wife, Bertha. Oh, wait a minute, he NEVER intended to divorce Bertha...........He just wanted a POA on the side.

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When I asked Lurch about the message, he said he felt very jealous of the guy because I seemed to be quite excited about the sales prospect. Duh - message to Lurch- of course I was excited about the prospect - that customer has turned out to be one of our better customers - thanks to ME!!!! I also told him that it is impossible for him to be a jealous boyfriend because a: he is a married man; and b: we are NOT dating as I DON'T date married men. At which point he assured me (once again) that he was divorcing Bertha and he loved me too much to lose me and was going to 'take care' of business.

Happy New Year

It is January 1 in the afternoon. I finally look at my cell phone (I had it on 'silent') and see that I have a new message. Who could that be?
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At EXACTLY midnight, I got a message from Lurch!!! "Happy New Year" A simple one to be sure, but a message nonetheless. Actually, I think the real message was the fact that he sent it to me at the stroke of midnight and I was supposed to think that he was all alone thinking about me. What a crock of SHIT!.
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Now that the holidays were over, he could start his pursuit again. And boy did he start.


I had heard horror stories about married men chasing after a POA, but this was INSANE.

The Holidays are Coming

So, Thanksgiving and Christmas were just around the corner. I wondered just how the Lurch would handle that situation. After all, he had been telling me he loved me, how much he wanted to be with me, and how life was too short to waste with people you don't care about (one of Lurch's life lessons' he learned from his dead horse Melvin). So, if that were true, who would he want to be with during the holidays? After all, if he hated Bertha and couldn't even stand the sight of her the way he claimed and loved me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me, wouldn't he want to spend the holidays with the ones he loved? That was his "Melvin" philosophy.

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Well, as I knew he was lying about wanting to be with me, I was curious as to how he was going to handle that situation. He did not disappoint.

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It was the middle of November and I got my usual phone call from him (probably his 10th of the day to me) on his way home (he always called me, I only called him on work related stuff) and we were in the middle of a conversation about the pros and cons of a construction project and he just hung up on me. (He claimed later the connection was lost).

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And that was it. Suddenly no more phone calls, no text messages at 2am, no more emails. He fell of the face of the earth. (No loss there!!! LOL)

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Anyway, due to work I had to call him a couple of days later. And I asked him what happened. He hems and haws and finally says that he thinks we MIGHT not get along (WTF???) so he said he was no longer interested in pursuing a relationship with me, but didn't feel the need to tell me. He's an even bigger AH than I thought.

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OK - so even if the horse squeeze he was telling me were true, what kind of a man does that?

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I do not hear from him for about 6 weeks - so guess what happens AFTER the holidays? So predictable.

Missed one.....

I realized that I left out a part that happened a couple of weeks after Lurch declared he loved me and that he wanted to be with me.......
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(Don't know why this pic insists on being sideways - LOL) .

I know what I want. I know what I need 2 do 2 have it...........


I got this text after I told him to shit or get off the pot - he was the one who declared that his marriage was LONG over and he was getting a divorce. I sure as hell did not pursue him. He could not have it both ways. From the very start he kept telling me that he wanted me (hahahaha) and that he ALWAYS got what he wanted. Who doesn't like a man who gets off his ass, gets busy and gets stuff done?
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So, the VERY NEXT NIGHT I get this message:
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Tonight we talked. She is leaving when she finds a place. My left hand is bare.

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Wow - is that convincing or what? Sounds serious to me. Here is a man who makes shit happen!! Jackpot!!!

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However, a little voice inside my head kept saying "let's see if she REALLY moves out" or is he just making this crap up? I always give someone the benefit of the doubt, but I do realize that most men are just out for NSA sex.

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Knowing what I know now - it would not surprise me if he took his ring off when he thought he might run into me. He is that much of an AH. Typical cheater.
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What he really means: Women take this ring symbol stuff really seriously so if I take my ring off, she'll think I really mean it and maybe I'll get 'some'.

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If he really meant it he would have: Called his lawyer and made an appointment on xyz date.

Work has been a beast these last 2 months............... :-)

Holding hands by the water

I was walking around outside around the waters edge and watching the couples and, of course, thinking about you and I walking around, holding hands and laughing and talking. I know you are amazing, and I know I love you.

OK, so 3 days after he tells me he is is not doing well, he is back to telling me he is thinking about me (walking by the water and holding hands no less - isn't that romantic??) and loves me. He writes this to me while he is on a trip all the way across the U.S. Hmmmm, he's away from Bertha and thinking about cheating on her. Wonderful!!! What a guy. He is no closer to divorcing her or anything close to it. What a nut.

I need a break. And wow - I get one. This guy really is psycho. I always love to get blamed for something I didn't do. Up next: The library.

The Expected Turnaround

.I need to tell you that I’m not doing real well. I feel sick to my stomach and like my heart is going to explode. Most parts of my life have pretty much fallen to the wayside. It is just not within me to continue like this or
to do the things I want to at this point (be with you) – not while there are still loose ends here and things that need to be discussed and decided on as far as who gets what and how much and all that stuff.

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Ok - he came on to me and now HE is not doing well??? WTF does that mean? Does this mean that he really doesn't hate his wife as much as he claims? Does it mean that it is not over with her? Continue like what? What a bunch of horseshit. He knows that he has no intention of divorcing Bertha and is trying to buy time.

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When he first told me that he was interested in dating me I told him that he needed to take care of things at home first because I don't go out with married men. At first Lurch said that he and Bertha had been over for years and it was just a simple task to end things and he did not need any time. Yeah - right.

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It sounded like a new tactic to me. I told him to call me when he had his shit together. In Cemetary State, that would mean about 6 months. I wondered how long it would be before he contacted me again. I knew that if and when he did that Bertha would still be there and nothing would have changed - he would just have another stupid excuse/story.

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Next: 6 months?? How about 3 days?

Campaign mode

I Love You. You are unlike anyone I have ever known-so right.
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IMY. Badly.
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God I miss u.
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U R more beautiful everytime I c u.
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It would b real hard 2 put n2 words how much I love talking 2 u.
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LY!!!
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Wow - he is laying it on thick now that he has informed me that Bertha is packed and ready to go!!! He's not getting any though - no matter how much he might want it! lol
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I told him point blank (in the 'beginning') that I was not interested in a married man. He is trying his hardest to convince me that Bertha is toast and he wants a relationship. Why don't I believe him - or why should I??? Men like him are a dime a dozen.
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As I posted, Lurch claims that Bertha is moving out and makes up this really stupid story that she is packed up and ready to go. So I keep pushing - I wanted to see what would happen. He probably thinks that he will 'get some' if he says the right things. Hence, all the txt messages about how much he loves me and misses (???) me. What an idiot. I realize that he must only date/marry women who are stupid/desperate enough to believe his BS. He is WAY out of his league. I just know that he is going to make it seem like he is a victim and can't help the situation he is in.

FYI - I do keep telling him over and over that I am not interested in a married man - he keeps telling me that he is leaving Bertha. In no way am I leading him on. I continue to push him away - he is quite persistent.
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So I keep asking. After all, HE is the one who is intently pursuing ME (where have I heard that before?? lol) and trying to convince me that he is leaving Bertha and not your typical POS married SOB.
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The sad part? Imagine if you were Bertha and your husband was sending messages like this to another woman. Horrible. Even if she did pursue him intently and he married her on the rebound and it was a huge mistake - or so he claims!