Holding hands by the water

I was walking around outside around the waters edge and watching the couples and, of course, thinking about you and I walking around, holding hands and laughing and talking. I know you are amazing, and I know I love you.

OK, so 3 days after he tells me he is is not doing well, he is back to telling me he is thinking about me (walking by the water and holding hands no less - isn't that romantic??) and loves me. He writes this to me while he is on a trip all the way across the U.S. Hmmmm, he's away from Bertha and thinking about cheating on her. Wonderful!!! What a guy. He is no closer to divorcing her or anything close to it. What a nut.

I need a break. And wow - I get one. This guy really is psycho. I always love to get blamed for something I didn't do. Up next: The library.

The Expected Turnaround

.I need to tell you that I’m not doing real well. I feel sick to my stomach and like my heart is going to explode. Most parts of my life have pretty much fallen to the wayside. It is just not within me to continue like this or
to do the things I want to at this point (be with you) – not while there are still loose ends here and things that need to be discussed and decided on as far as who gets what and how much and all that stuff.

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Ok - he came on to me and now HE is not doing well??? WTF does that mean? Does this mean that he really doesn't hate his wife as much as he claims? Does it mean that it is not over with her? Continue like what? What a bunch of horseshit. He knows that he has no intention of divorcing Bertha and is trying to buy time.

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When he first told me that he was interested in dating me I told him that he needed to take care of things at home first because I don't go out with married men. At first Lurch said that he and Bertha had been over for years and it was just a simple task to end things and he did not need any time. Yeah - right.

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It sounded like a new tactic to me. I told him to call me when he had his shit together. In Cemetary State, that would mean about 6 months. I wondered how long it would be before he contacted me again. I knew that if and when he did that Bertha would still be there and nothing would have changed - he would just have another stupid excuse/story.

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Next: 6 months?? How about 3 days?

Campaign mode

I Love You. You are unlike anyone I have ever known-so right.
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IMY. Badly.
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God I miss u.
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U R more beautiful everytime I c u.
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It would b real hard 2 put n2 words how much I love talking 2 u.
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LY!!!
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Wow - he is laying it on thick now that he has informed me that Bertha is packed and ready to go!!! He's not getting any though - no matter how much he might want it! lol
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I told him point blank (in the 'beginning') that I was not interested in a married man. He is trying his hardest to convince me that Bertha is toast and he wants a relationship. Why don't I believe him - or why should I??? Men like him are a dime a dozen.
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As I posted, Lurch claims that Bertha is moving out and makes up this really stupid story that she is packed up and ready to go. So I keep pushing - I wanted to see what would happen. He probably thinks that he will 'get some' if he says the right things. Hence, all the txt messages about how much he loves me and misses (???) me. What an idiot. I realize that he must only date/marry women who are stupid/desperate enough to believe his BS. He is WAY out of his league. I just know that he is going to make it seem like he is a victim and can't help the situation he is in.

FYI - I do keep telling him over and over that I am not interested in a married man - he keeps telling me that he is leaving Bertha. In no way am I leading him on. I continue to push him away - he is quite persistent.
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So I keep asking. After all, HE is the one who is intently pursuing ME (where have I heard that before?? lol) and trying to convince me that he is leaving Bertha and not your typical POS married SOB.
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The sad part? Imagine if you were Bertha and your husband was sending messages like this to another woman. Horrible. Even if she did pursue him intently and he married her on the rebound and it was a huge mistake - or so he claims!

He must be serious

Got a text message:

"Got home and the house has her packed boxes all over"

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OK - so Bertha is packed and ready to go. Even the pictures are off the walls. Later he told me that Bertha is going to move in with her mother. Boy, that sounds like he is serious to me!! I just knew he was not a piece of shit like every other married guy who says he is going to leave his wife. hahahahahahaha. I was just waiting for the punch line. He did not disappoint.

The Mansion

I have never been to Lurch'shouse. However, throught the miracle of the internet, you get to see all kinds of stuff. This is the 'mansion'. This is the culmination of Paul's life dreams. (Lurch has a VERY well paying job I might add - He bought this in his late 30's / early 40's.)

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This is what is known in real estate lingo as a 'starter home' - usually for people under the age of 25. It is approx. 1,000 sf, built in the 60's, and has few ammenities. It is also located near a rock quarry and tons of trailers. I am not picking on trailers (or starter homes) - but rather the fact that Lurch talked like he is living in a place like this http://www.downunderhorsemanship.com/ranch/ but the reality is so different.

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The thing that bothers me the most about this is the trash at the front door, the broken window, clogged gutters and the general lack of maintenance. All those things reflect the values of the owner. How 'bout them 4 dogs? What about that fencing?

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OK, enough of that. What's up with the trailer on the property?? This is where it gets interesting. One of his ex-father-in-laws lives there!!! Lurch could not afford the home (around $50K about 11 years ago) and had his to have his (then) father-in-law help buy the property. What is really bizarre about the whole situation is that the ex-wife visits all the time and is trying desperately to get Lurch back!! Wow - who wouldn't like THAT situation????

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It gets even more bizarre - this particular ex-wife had an affair while married to Lurch (there is an ongoing theme here) and got knocked up by one of the guys Lurch works with. She told Lurch that he was not man enough to get her pregnant and then turns around and she gets an abortion!!!! WTF??? He told me he NEVER even wanted the two kids he has; what made her think he wanted any more? She divorced him because she didn't think he was much of a man - why the hell does she want him back???? He hasn't changed one bit.

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I do believe Lurch when he says that this ex wants him back because she actually tried to get a job working in his department to be near him - SICK!!!

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This situation is so weird - it proves the saying "Truth is stranger than fiction"

Let the excuses begin!!

OK, so Lurch had made it clear that it is over with Bertha (and has been for a long time), his family hates her, he has taken off his ring, and he has asked for a divorce. So, what would any normal person expect to happen? I would think that at this point Bertha would be looking for a place to live. I certainly would - I would not want to be with someone who made it clear that they did not want me around.

So, I posed that question to him.

As expected, the pathetic excuses began:

"Yes, Bertha knows I want a divorce; I just have to do this my way. She must not know that I have found someone else, so I need to take my time with this otherwise she will take my house away from me in the divorce and make me pay her alimony. I worked my whole life to get this house and I am not going to let her take it away from me so I need to take it slow"
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Holy shit!! OK - this is Cemetery State, not California where there is an automatic 50/50 split. You get to keep what you had BEFORE the marriage. Lurch had the house years before he ever met Bertha. She never paid a dime towards it - in fact Lurch sent her to college (although she conveniently never got a job) so she should be able to support herself and not receive alimony - much less get the house. The college she went to was expensive - I should know - I got my MBA there. Of course, I actually work for a living (and my company paid a portion of it).
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I then asked him if he went to a lawyer to see if this could happen. Naturally he said he was too busy.

Next post: just how fabulous is this house that a 50 year old man has that he worked so hard for? It should be a mansion - or damn close to it. And what other surprises are there with this house?