Ummmmm - You're kidding, right?

Ok - I saw the message from Ides of March that she posted on Saturday:
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Since you brought it up - what is the "irony" of The View From 32? I just wonder...........
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Gave it some thought. And marveled once again at the audacity of her request (safely made on her computer so she wouldn't have to interface with me) and her total lack of a backbone.
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Summary background:
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Spineless behavior #1
Ides texts me that I have an 'interesting blog' and requests more information from me. I generously agree to meet her if she so chooses. Obviously she lied to me about it being 'interesting'. She decides she (and her husband - his name is clearly on the paperwork) would prefer to sue me instead.

Spineless behavior #2
Posts comments to my blog - not very nice ones. Lies repeatedly on the blog. Documented for all my followers to read.
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One of Ides' comments: Mack- no to your question. She couldn't even look me in the eye, let alone tell me she is smearing my life on the INTERNET. Slunk away from me like a dog.Want to look me in the eye and tell me your side of things? Share your "library". Just name the place.
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What a bunch of horseshit! Having offered to meet with her/talk on the phone etc - guess who proved that they were the true 'slinking' dog? See June 10 for details of that situation (something wonky happened with that comment - it disappeared and showed up in a strange place)
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Spineless behavior #3
Used her RECENTLY DECEASED (I believe June 8?) mother's email account (jlf1946@domainxyz) to elicit information. Any idea how creepy it is to get email from a dead person? What an ugly, spineless tactic. Lying that she is a loyal reader just interested in what I meant. I offer once again to speak with her (privately on the phone or whatever) and she obviously is too afraid. Tell me who has the problem. That is so wrong for so many reasons.
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Spineless behavior #4
Posts to blog as if her behavior is totally normal and as if it weren't her email using her dead mother's account!!! Since you brought it up??? I bring up lots of stuff. So what?
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Ides of March and her husband are a PERFECTLY matched couple. Nasty, lying, sneaky AH's. Both use underhanded tactics to try to get something from me.
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Apparently Ides is unable to figure out that type of behavior is exactly the reason I have this blog!!
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Ides -
Go ask your husband what the irony is of the email address - I am sure that he will tell you the truth - DWS. And - yeah - ask him the story behind DWS as well while you're at it. I have no doubt that he is just a fountain of truthful information!! hahahahahahaha

I know that you don't believe anything I post anyway.

Yo Jackie!!! Another detour...

The View From 32

We are back to the strange again. I got an email from someone named "Jacquotte." The email address was jlf1946@domainxyz.com.

I am 99% sure it was from our friend Bertha.
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This is the complete email - no greeting or signoff:

I have been following your blog for awhile now and was waiting for the irony of the e-mail address you listed.

May I ask? Is it something to do with this guy? LOL.
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I have a co-worker who reminds me of this guy. He hangs around too long, gives empty compliments. I think of your blog whenever he passes by. What a loser!
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OK - as I know that Bertha's mom's name is Jacquotte Letty Frewin, I find it rather strange that I would get an email from someone who just so happens to have the same exact first name and initials. What are the odds? Most people who are curious would just post a comment/question on the blog. I always respond. If they had been following for awhile, they would know that. Hmmmmm.
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So I sent an email back asking if jlf stands for Jacquotte Letty Frewin. As expected, no response.
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So, on the off chance that you are NOT Bertha, I'm apologize. Please just post to the blog so everyone can read the response.

If you are Bertha, QUIT THIS SHIT. GET A BACKBONE AND GIVE ME A FUCKING PHONE CALL AND TALK TO ME INSTEAD!!!!!! I do not bite. I hate sneaky shit. Lurch must have told Bertha that I was stupid so she thought I would fall for this. Lurch told me (long before his pursuit) that Bertha was smart (he frequently bragged about what he had - it always turned out to be mediocre). It appears Lurch lied to both of us.
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What do you guys think? Am I paranoid?

After the new job - it begins again

OK - so I am going to try to get back on track.....this follows the June 17 entry about getting a new job.

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After Lurch made it quite obvious that he was interested in me and it was obvious he only wanted one thing, I got another job within the company. It was located at another facility and had ABSOLUTLEY NOTHING to do with what I was doing before.

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That did not stop Lurch.

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I had been in the new job for a couple of months and Lurch did his 'holiday' thing and at New Years and I got the midnight text. I wondered what would happen next. Well, I did not have to wait long. I got a phone call from Lurch and he told me that he was doing a presentation on MY PRODUCT LINE!!! Holy shit. That would be like having a person who specializes in rebuilding domestic Model T engines and having them go off and be the expert at a conference on the latest foreign design electric trains with all the bells and whistles. It made absolutely no sense. I talked to my business development guys - they had no clue either why an old 'motor' guy would be doing trying to represent their brand new, state-of-the-art product.

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But no matter what strings Lurch pulled to go to this conference that he was so obviously not qualified for, I still had to help him with his presentation. As I enjoy my job and did not want to lose it by letting the company down (or pissing off Lurch who was still on staff at the time - and could get me fired for not doing my job), I had to come up with something. So I arranged for him to deal with someone else...... LOL

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Lurch did not get what he wanted - i.e. working closely with me on his presentation. However, that did not stop Lurch. Now that he felt like he had 'connected' back with me, he was back in full force trying to convince me that he was dumping the ball and chain, Bertha. Once again, he was back to telling me that he was just miserable with Bertha and that I was the woman for him.......yeah right. Up next: The 'list'

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What he really meant: I still REALLY want to have an affair with you. You thought I was making up shit before - just wait and see now that the holidays are over.

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If he really meant it: he would not have contacted me until he was divorced. Forget the lawyer crap at this point - papers needed to be signed and final if he was serious and not just another guy looking for a piece.

There is one thing that really stands out for me during this whole saga. Never be dependent on a man. Do whatever it takes to be able to support yourself. Get any training you can. Go to college - do any job that will give you $$ towards paying for it. Work full time for a couple of years - and continue to work at least part-time after you get married/are in a committed relationship (any type). NEVER rely on someone else completely. Anything can happen and you have to be able to take care of yourself. You do not want to end up like Bertha where you have to make pathetic excuses to stay where you are and blame innocent victims because you have no where else to go. .

I have been on my own since I was 13, so I probably have somewhat of an advantage on being able to take care of myself. I have always had to look out for myself and don't trust anybody (even though I do try - but it is not unusual for a guy to let you down - just read the newspaper or watch TV - lots of examples out there)

Anti-social psychopath/Narcissistic personality disorder

I would like to call your attention to Hoppytoad79's comment on Aug 5. She is right on with her analysis! That fits Lurch to a T. It is straight from the American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual. I couldn't believe I was reading it - Hoppytoad79 read my mind - I actually sent Lurch that analysis - highlighting exactly what she bolded. (Us New Yorkers are smart :-)) This was part of one of the many letters that I sent to Lurch trying to get him to leave me alone. I wonder if that is one of the letters he shared with Bertha? Ides_ of_March - did you ever see a letter similar to this in your situation???

The psychopath is defined by an uninhibited gratification in criminal, sexual, or aggressive impulses and the inability to learn from past mistakes.[10][11][12] Individuals with this disorder gain satisfaction through their antisocial behavior and lack remorse for their actions. Characterized by many short-term marital relationships. Robert Hare describes people he calls psychopaths as "intraspecies predators[33][34] who use charm, manipulation, intimidation, sex and violence[35][36][37] to control others and to satisfy their own selfish needs. Lacking in conscience and empathy, they take what they want and do as they please, violating social norms and expectations without guilt or remorse".[24] "What is missing, in other words, are the very qualities that allow a human being to live in social harmony.

Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a personality disorder defined by the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, the diagnostic classification system used in the United States, as "a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, and a lack of empathy."[1]

Thank you Hoppytoad79 - your analysis and insights are much appreciated.

Things about Lurch I have not talked about:
*his past drug abuse
*aggressive behavior
*hates boredom - he totally ignores people speaking at mandatory meetings because they are 'stupid' and not worth listening to.
*disregard for safety of self or others (rides horses that are not ready to be ridden - told me about a horse (Allergy Medicine) who threw him and kicked him in the head).
*hates his boss (his boss hates him too - and recently demoted him)
*has no long-term goals (other than to get sex from his co-workers, wife's students, girl at grocery store checkout, secretary, anybody!! etc)

Things about Lurch that I have not seen but others have told me about:
Lurch loves to use intimidation - and due to his immense size, he uses it frequently.
Due to the type of job Lurch has, he stays within the law - which is also why he is avoiding drugs right now - he did tell me that when he gets out of the job he is in, he will go back to the drug habits that he picked up in California (while running naked on the beach!!!!!). Eye bleach - quick!

Lurch's Favorite Sympathy Tactics

Lurch frequently uses the 'sympathy play'. He tells you a sob story so that you feel sorry for him and hopes that you get annoyed or angry at the person who was so mean to him. (Similar to when he gave Bertha the letter...........)
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Here is a good example. Lurch's dad had to have heart surgery. Lurch went out of his way to tell me very specifically that only he and his mother would be going to the hospital during this critical operation. I asked him if Bertha would also be going. Rather than just saying no, he jumped right in and told me that she had other things to do - like give her horse a bath or go shopping for new riding clothes. I said that did not seem right - she should be there to give you support during the operation. He then said that she was a very selfish person and did not want to be bothered with such messy, unhappy events! Holy Shit! Could he have made Bertha seem any worse??
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During his dad's surgery, I got lots of phone calls from Lurch updating me on his dad's progress. At this point I had not even met his father. Lurch appeared to be looking for my support because his mean selfish wife would not provide it. Of course, being the nice person that I was, I talked to him and gave him encouragement and wished his father a speedy recovery. Wow - how could you not feel bad for a guy who's wife won't support him during such an event?
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Another favorite victim game Lurch likes to play is the "I do everything around the house" game. According to Lurch, he does all the cooking, laundry, dishes, pays someone to clean the house (and to make it worse, he says that Bertha is a pig), all the mowing, trimming, feeding animals (including all of Bertha's dogs/horses etc), gets all the animal food (hay is a real PITA), does the grocery shopping for his food because all Bertha will buy is crappy, non-nutritious food for herself, all outside maintenance of the house/barn/fencing, stall cleaning, truck/car/trailer maintenance etc. etc. All on top of his full time job, whereas Bertha is unemployed.

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He tells you in a certain way like - "whew, just finished doing all the dishes and the laundry - only have mowing the lawn, feeding all the animals, and cleaning stalls left for the evening, and when I come back in the house I will pay all the bills. Boy, it's a lot of work for one man to keep up this place." Which, of course, begs the question - "What is Bertha doing? Doesn't she help?" Naturally he acts all coy and says that she is too busy with showing her horses and hanging out with her friends to do any work at home. Yeah - right..................
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How can you tell the guy is a player in the above scenarios? Any time a guy tells you how crappy his wife is and how fabulous he is (and has not yet made the appointment at his divorce lawyer) - RUN!!!!!!! It does not matter what the situation is - a decent man will not do that - EVER. The player will tell you a couple of bits of information encouraging you to ask questions to 'drag' the rest of the story out of him and he tells it with such great reluctance. Hah! That is BS.

If he talks nasty about his wife, he will talk nasty about you too.
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Lurch uses the sympathy play quite a bit. Yeah - I fell for it in the first example............ :~C

Let's follow the money - Part 2

OK - so what was Lurch's inspiration to use horses to pick up women? Why it's no other that Pit Pirelli. Lurch is a lifetime member of Pit's club and has attended several of Pit's clinics - without Bertha. I wonder if Lurch watched one of Pit's earlier videos where he describes why horses are the best for making $$ and picking up women?
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In the video, Pit joked about how his clients are mostly women in their 30's and 40's - usually lonely wives/divorcees with a life long dream of riding a 'horsey' and they have lots of money. Pit then joked about how they are willing to spread open their checkbook as well as their...well, you know. You just have to give them lots of compliments (even if you don't mean them) and make them feel 'speshul.'
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Well, apparently Lurch took this to heart. He needed a gimmick too - and so he decided that he would try to get one of those 'movie horses' and take it to events around the country to rustle up some business. There are hundreds of these horses - each horse movie has dozens highly trained stunt horses to perform in the movie. So Lurch gets one of these. (He likes to take all the credit for the horse's training too.)
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So now Lurch has the horse, which he gets paid to keep for the group he represents, and he gets to take the horse around the country and use it to try to pick up women. Lying to the women that he rescues poor starving, beaten thoroughbreds just makes him seem even more wonderful.
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Lurch leaves Bertha at home when he goes on these trips - even though he says she begs him to go along with him. (How many women do you know that would beg a man to go with them after he supposedly asked them repeatedly for a divorce??) He said she had the nerve to show up at one of the events because it was on their anniversary weekend (October). He kept calling me that week telling what a great time he was having and then he said that the old ball and chain showed up on Friday and he was now miserable. He actually had the audacity to tell me that they slept in separate rooms at the hotel!!!! And he thought I believed it too. Not.
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I do believe that Lurch is very successful at these events - there are lots of lonely, desperate women out there. Look at Bertha. Have you seen the scores of women at these horse events/clinics that fit that description? They just about fall out of their pants just looking at these horse trainers at the clinics. I saw it myself at a recent Clinton Anderson event. One woman was actually CRYING because Clinton talked to her for 3 seconds!! OK - so he looks good in his jeans, but jeeeeeeez, crying???
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Lurch told me about one woman he met at an event that 'really liked what she saw' (yes, that is exactly what he wrote in an email) and was coming up to his place to pay him to learn about horses. How convenient that she was coming up during the week that Bertha was going to be out of town. Divorced, lonely, money to burn - SCORE....................
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Next - some of the tactics.
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Time has gone by and I have had a chance to reflect on things that Lurch did, said, and wrote and talked to a couple of people that know him (most hate him - no surprise there). When you put it all together, Lurch is even more evil then I first thought possible. There is a special place in hell for males that try to take advantage of women for their own sexual pleasure or control - right along with wife beaters, rapists, and child molestors.