Sunday, August 9, 2009

Anti-social psychopath/Narcissistic personality disorder

I would like to call your attention to Hoppytoad79's comment on Aug 5. She is right on with her analysis! That fits Lurch to a T. It is straight from the American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual. I couldn't believe I was reading it - Hoppytoad79 read my mind - I actually sent Lurch that analysis - highlighting exactly what she bolded. (Us New Yorkers are smart :-)) This was part of one of the many letters that I sent to Lurch trying to get him to leave me alone. I wonder if that is one of the letters he shared with Bertha? Ides_ of_March - did you ever see a letter similar to this in your situation???

The psychopath is defined by an uninhibited gratification in criminal, sexual, or aggressive impulses and the inability to learn from past mistakes.[10][11][12] Individuals with this disorder gain satisfaction through their antisocial behavior and lack remorse for their actions. Characterized by many short-term marital relationships. Robert Hare describes people he calls psychopaths as "intraspecies predators[33][34] who use charm, manipulation, intimidation, sex and violence[35][36][37] to control others and to satisfy their own selfish needs. Lacking in conscience and empathy, they take what they want and do as they please, violating social norms and expectations without guilt or remorse".[24] "What is missing, in other words, are the very qualities that allow a human being to live in social harmony.

Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a personality disorder defined by the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, the diagnostic classification system used in the United States, as "a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, and a lack of empathy."[1]

Thank you Hoppytoad79 - your analysis and insights are much appreciated.

Things about Lurch I have not talked about:
*his past drug abuse
*aggressive behavior
*hates boredom - he totally ignores people speaking at mandatory meetings because they are 'stupid' and not worth listening to.
*disregard for safety of self or others (rides horses that are not ready to be ridden - told me about a horse (Allergy Medicine) who threw him and kicked him in the head).
*hates his boss (his boss hates him too - and recently demoted him)
*has no long-term goals (other than to get sex from his co-workers, wife's students, girl at grocery store checkout, secretary, anybody!! etc)

Things about Lurch that I have not seen but others have told me about:
Lurch loves to use intimidation - and due to his immense size, he uses it frequently.
Due to the type of job Lurch has, he stays within the law - which is also why he is avoiding drugs right now - he did tell me that when he gets out of the job he is in, he will go back to the drug habits that he picked up in California (while running naked on the beach!!!!!). Eye bleach - quick!


  1. You are more than welcome. What he did to that dog when he was younger is what got my Psycho Sense, educated recently when I read up on sociopaths for a story I'm planning, tingling like mad. I have no formal background or training in psychiatry, but if the shoe fits and it quacks like a duck and you're saying 'yes' to every single item on the list of diagnostic criteria, the shoe is probably a duck, yesno? All this is simply an offering of my two cents and is not meant, in any way, shape, or form, to be taken as any kind of Official Advice or Diagnosis.

    I just had another lightbulb moment: when he showed Bertha your letters. Like you said, what kind of man does that? Controlling, manipulative, lack of concern for others, no conscience or empathy, one who can be described as a heartless bastard.

    And on a totally different subject, because all this is seriously depressing, I noticed the recent blog subject for Why Women Hate Men in your sidebar and it reminded me of something that happened to me the other night. The friend I live with has a number of reptiles as pets. I had one of her snakes out while I was watching a movie in my room and it was on my lap area when it decided to slither itself through the front belt loops of my shorts. The first thing to cross my mind was, 'Well, that gives new meaning to the term 'trouser snake'.' Yes, I have a sick mind. How could you tell? ;D

  2. Hoppytoad79
    LOL-trouser snake!!! I can't stand snakes!!! I had a couple in my house years ago - they were about 7 ft long. I still have nightmares about them.

    I have no 'official' knowledge of mental disorders either, but when Lurch sent me an email (after I sent him yet another email telling him what a shit he was for what he was trying to do to me and Bertha) saying that he deserved a whole new classification under the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual I did a little searching. He does not need a new classification. (What an ego to think he needs a whole new category!!) It is right there for all to see. The saddest part is that there is no 'cure'. They will always be that way - totally selfish and lacking any conscience or empathy for others. Always manipulating...

    Sad to say that Bertha is not capable of seeing it either.

    Love your journal.....