OK - so I am going to try to get back on track.....this follows the June 17 entry about getting a new job.
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After Lurch made it quite obvious that he was interested in me and it was obvious he only wanted one thing, I got another job within the company. It was located at another facility and had ABSOLUTLEY NOTHING to do with what I was doing before.
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That did not stop Lurch.
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I had been in the new job for a couple of months and Lurch did his 'holiday' thing and at New Years and I got the midnight text. I wondered what would happen next. Well, I did not have to wait long. I got a phone call from Lurch and he told me that he was doing a presentation on MY PRODUCT LINE!!! Holy shit. That would be like having a person who specializes in rebuilding domestic Model T engines and having them go off and be the expert at a conference on the latest foreign design electric trains with all the bells and whistles. It made absolutely no sense. I talked to my business development guys - they had no clue either why an old 'motor' guy would be doing trying to represent their brand new, state-of-the-art product.
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But no matter what strings Lurch pulled to go to this conference that he was so obviously not qualified for, I still had to help him with his presentation. As I enjoy my job and did not want to lose it by letting the company down (or pissing off Lurch who was still on staff at the time - and could get me fired for not doing my job), I had to come up with something. So I arranged for him to deal with someone else...... LOL
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Lurch did not get what he wanted - i.e. working closely with me on his presentation. However, that did not stop Lurch. Now that he felt like he had 'connected' back with me, he was back in full force trying to convince me that he was dumping the ball and chain, Bertha. Once again, he was back to telling me that he was just miserable with Bertha and that I was the woman for him.......yeah right. Up next: The 'list'
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What he really meant: I still REALLY want to have an affair with you. You thought I was making up shit before - just wait and see now that the holidays are over.
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If he really meant it: he would not have contacted me until he was divorced. Forget the lawyer crap at this point - papers needed to be signed and final if he was serious and not just another guy looking for a piece.
There is one thing that really stands out for me during this whole saga. Never be dependent on a man. Do whatever it takes to be able to support yourself. Get any training you can. Go to college - do any job that will give you $$ towards paying for it. Work full time for a couple of years - and continue to work at least part-time after you get married/are in a committed relationship (any type). NEVER rely on someone else completely. Anything can happen and you have to be able to take care of yourself. You do not want to end up like Bertha where you have to make pathetic excuses to stay where you are and blame innocent victims because you have no where else to go. .
I have been on my own since I was 13, so I probably have somewhat of an advantage on being able to take care of myself. I have always had to look out for myself and don't trust anybody (even though I do try - but it is not unusual for a guy to let you down - just read the newspaper or watch TV - lots of examples out there)
"NEVER rely on someone else completely. Anything can happen and you have to be able to take care of yourself."
ReplyDeleteA-MEN. This is true, no matter what your situation. About five years ago, my former best friend married the kind of guy every mother wants her daughter to end up with. Lurch, this guy is not. They started dating when they were sixteen, married at twenty-five. She truly could not have done better.
Leading up to their nuptuals, they bought a roughly $140K house. She was in school and he made about $40K/year, not including bonuses and raises and such. Growing up, my parents made $40K combined and things were Rather Tight almost all the time. Out of concern, I expressed my concerns to my friend and asked her what they'd do if Greg (not his real name) lost his job. Her response? "Greg will take care of it." *points you to a brick wall* Bash away, dear, bash away. You know you want to.
Greg is, as I've said, a prince among men. The worst thing I can say about him is that he's too conservative and a bit too straight-laced for me. Even princes among men lose their jobs, especially in crappy economies, and they can also end up being t-boned by drunk drivers, lose control on slick roads, trip over something on the sidewalk, or a million and one other freak accidents that leave them incapacitated or dead. My own father has done his level best to be a good provider for my mom and me and to be there for us but his having good intentions didn't mean squat when he lost his job when I was eight and it was years before he was able to find a job that paid enough for the ends to get close enough to touch more often than not, and that's with the income from his second job and my mom working full-time. Going back to my friend, I hope that nothing ever goes wrong for her and Greg or that she grows a pair of ovaries before he does need to lean on her. We both know what'll happen if reality crashes down and she's still worshipping at the altar of Prince Gregory Charming. xp I've never dated much and my parents raised me to be independent and capable of handling myself. I wouldn't trade being solo and capable for Mr. Perfect and dead meat if a shitstorm comes for anything--but I wouldn't mind being competent *and* having Mr. Perfect. Definitely no complaints about that. ;D
There was more but I'm really tired now and my brain isn't working so I'll leave it at that for now.
Cheryl - you are 100% correct.
ReplyDeleteEven Mr. Perfect can have something happen to him. It is always best to have a back-up plan.
I hope things work out for your friend - and that your find your own Mr. Perfect :)
Oops, 'you find', not 'your find'......
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